My name is Jay Dee.  I’ve been living in Japan since 2005.  In January 2010, I met my wife.  And in June 2011, we discovered we’re having our first child.  I’m writing this blog to talk about what it’s like to be a foreign dad living in Japan.  I will talk about the pregnancy, the way things are done in Japan from the point of view of a foreigner, and after the birth, what it’s like to be a dad in Japan.


29 thoughts on “About

  1. Hey – I’m a student doing research on the babycare / diaper market in Japan. Would you be willing to answer a few questions?

  2. My Dad was Canadian as were my grandparents. I grew up in Michigan and moved to Georgia in 1997. I met my now-husband here, so I stayed in GA! I still feel like a “foreigner” at times, though, being in the south as a northerner! I’m enjoying your blog. 🙂 Congratulatioins to you and your wife. Your little girl is adorable!

      • Yes, quite. The weather, the accent, the culture!! But I met my husband here and he is my world, so I’m a willing foreigner! 😉 Our kids have my accent because they spend the most time with me. There are no “ya’ll”s or “ain’t”s in this house! Haha

  3. I have mostly run into ‘mommy blogs’ so it will be interesting to see your take on raising a child as a foreigner in Japan. Though I do not live in Japan, it seems like most of my blog comments come from people in Japan. Kudos for sharing your stories. Look forward to reading about your adventures.

  4. Your blog is so cool, and your baby is adorable 😀 I’m kind of the opposite. I’m American, and my husband is a Japanese citizen. He came over here to study English, but we met, and fell in love. So he has a green card and is staying in America, but he is still very Japanese. Everything he watches or reads on the computer is in Japanese. He sleep talks in Japanese. He eats even potato chips with chopsticks XD He works for a Japanese company as well, so many of his coworkers speak Japanese. He is very proud of his heritage.

    The rest of his family is in Japan, mostly Tokyo and Sendai. We talked about living over in Japan maybe in the future. I have an advanced degree in healthcare that wouldn’t transfer to Japan, so my loans would have to be paid off first, lol. My husband and I were thinking of starting a family this year, so I may do a blog like this. I don’t know much Japanese, but my husband is adamant that our future children learn, so I need to make a bigger effort since I’ll be the one spending the most time with the baby.

    But the reason I wanted to start a blog or vlog about our future kids is so that his family doesn’t miss out so much since they are so far away. Anyway, I digress. This is a really cool idea 🙂

    • Thanks! I agree that your kids be able to speak Japanese. Bilingualism is an amazing thing for children, because it opens up so many opportunities for their future, as well as keeps their brains healthy. They’ll also be able to learn other languages much more easily.

      Your husband uses chopsticks to eat potato chips? I’ve never actually seen that in Japan 🙂

      Good luck, and let me know if you do start a blog or vlog.

  5. Hi,
    I have been following your blog since your lovely daughter was about 6 months old. My daughter is 25 days younger and so it was always nice to see what kind of development would happen in advance by following Tomoe’s growth.
    I am a bit worried about my daughter these days and would like your advice on it. We believe she is quite intelligent (not just because we are her parents!) she has vast vocabulary, but she does not speak in sentences. She speaks gibberish. Otherwise, she communicates in single and mostly correct words. I would like to get her checked by a speech therapist, but I do not know how to even start searching. I do not read Japanese well at all and its hard for me to search. My husband is also non Japanese with almost nil Japanese skills. Would you be able to direct me toward the first step to finding out if there is any developmental delays or speech problems, from an expert in Japan? We live in the Tokai area.

    Thanks in advance!

    • I wouldn’t be worried about this quite yet. I’ve heard that it’s best to wait until 3 years old to see how language development is going. My daughter also speaks mostly in single words. She uses a lot of gibberish, as well. It’s gradually changing to more Japanese and English, and I’m discovering that some of the gibberish is just poorly pronounced English or Japanese. Sentences should be expected by 3 years old, but only simple, short ones. My daughter has only recently (in the past couple months) started stringing together 2 words.

      So please don’t worry yet. If she has a good amount of vocabulary, she’s doing well.

      • Hello! Thanks so much for your reply. I appreciate it. You are right, I should not worry about it yet. I used to teach English too before I got busy with my own children. But these days, I have started doing “lessons” with my daughter with the hope that she might learn to communicated better in bit more organised manner. And soon, as with your daughter, she will be going to Yochien in spring and I hope that will sort out her language skills and help her understand the difference between what she speaks now and what is really spoken to get an idea across. I guess, the best teacher is Necessity.
        Again thank you and I look forward to more of your blog entries.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s