The verdict on the “contest”

A few weeks ago, I asked for people to guess my daughter’s birth weight and time.  Well, here are the results.

For weight, which was 3302 grams, here are the guesses from lowest to highest:

  • 2930 g – Akiko Takeuchi
  • 3100 g – Heather Jenkins
  • 3150 g – Mom and Aileen
  • 3200 g – Steve
  • 3275 g – Heather (Hethr)
  • 3302 g – Birth weight
  • 3400 g – Cristina
  • 3507 g – Coreana
  • 3774 g – Lori

The closest was Heather!  Only 27 g difference.  Second is Cristina with a difference of 98 g, then Steve with 102 g difference.

Next is the birth time:

  • 2:30 am Heather Jenkins
  • 3:53 am Lori
  • 4:15 am Steve
  • 12:36 pm Coreana
  • 1:00 pm Aileen
  • 2:00 pm Birth time
  • 2:21 pm Cristina
  • 2:37 pm Heather (Hethr)
  • 2:55 pm Akiko Takeuchi
  • 10:30 pm Mom

The closest was Cristina, 21 minutes away!  Then it was Heather with only 37 minutes difference.  Finally, Akiko with 55 minutes.

Wow, Heather and Cristina both had the first and second best guesses!  Great guessing!



Tomoe, born January 25th

On January 24th, my wife entered the clinic for our daughter’s birth.  We went up to her room and had a look.  It’s a private room, as she’ll have a private room for the first bit while she recovers from her Caesarean section.  It’s a pretty simple room, if you ask me.

This was the room for the first night.

It has a sink and a fridge.

My mother-in-law and I left my wife at the clinic for a while, since she had to go through an orientation.  We could return for visiting hours.  So, we went and had lunch and did a little shopping that my wife wanted us to do.  During that time, my mother-in-law, who doesn’t speak English, and I, whose Japanese isn’t very good, struggled to communicate.  I think we did okay, though.  After our shopping, she went to her hotel, and I returned to the clinic to visit with my wife for a couple hours.  As her dinner time approached, I had to leave and let her eat.  It was dark when I went home.

On my way home on the 24th, I took this picture of the clinic.

Last night, I found it difficult to sleep.  I was quite restless and just kept watching TV, which barely held my interest.  I couldn’t stop thinking about the day ahead.  I finally did get to bed, but I didn’t have a great sleep.  I kept waking up.

In the morning, my wife called me and told me that the birth would be a bit earlier than expected.  I had to go to the clinic a little earlier than I’d planned.  My mother-in-law was already there when I arrived.  My wife had been moved to a new room.

This is the new room for the next 3 days.

We spent some time talking.  But it was only for a short time.  The nurse came and said it was time.  This was about 1 pm.  It would be about 2 hours until she’d be back in her room, but I wasn’t clear about what time the birth would be.  So, I read a bit while my mother-in-law did some knitting.  The nurses had to do a little preparation work in the room, so we had to move out to the dining room.

The dining room has 3 tables. Not many people stay here at a time.

I could read for a while, but I was getting restless.  I started pacing like the stereotypical expecting father does.  Even my mother-in-law started laughing at me, because Japanese men do the same thing.  About 2 pm, I could hear a baby crying.  I had no idea if it was my daughter or one of the babies already there.  Well, we found out quickly.  It was my daughter.  The nurse told us to look through the nurse station window, where we could see a nurse holding her, but only briefly.  She then opened the door, and we could see her up close.  This was the first time I saw her.

Less than 10 minutes after she was born.

She still had some blood on her, as she hadn’t been cleaned up much yet.  It was amazing to see!  She opened her eyes a bit, but not for long.  She wasn’t used to the bright light.  Her hair is dark brown.  I noticed that her fingers were a bit blue-grey.  We were told that her head was 35 cm around, which is quite big.  She was 50 cm long.  Her hands are also a bit big and her legs are long.  She’s a big baby!  Her birth weight is 3302 grams, and she was born at exactly 2 pm.  The nurse then took her back in, and asked us to go sit down and wait.

After a bit, we were told to come to the window to the nursery.  She was dressed in a robe and had a little cap on her head.  She’d been cleaned up and was a more natural colour.  I couldn’t stop smiling.  I watched her for over an hour.

She's looking at the camera!

Good night.

After that last picture, she woke up and started crying.  She also gave quite the interesting face, like she was straining.  Probably peeing and pooping.  For quite some time, she gave some incredibly funny faces, crying off and on.  Most of the time I watched her, her mouth was moving like she was searching for food.  She wanted to have milk.

We went to see my wife, as she’d been returned to her room.  She was in pain from the Caesarean section, and said that she felt pain during the operation.  I wonder if the local anaesthetic didn’t work so well for her.  We talked about her name.  And so, we have named her Tomoe (智恵).  So, everyone, please meet my daughter Tomoe.

How do I feel about fatherhood?

Tomorrow is the birth of my daughter.  A year ago, I never would have thought this was coming so soon.  But here I am, staying at home with the dog, while my wife is at the clinic ready to give birth to our first child tomorrow.  My feelings about this have changed a lot over the past few months.

The moment we found out we were having a baby, we’d both already suspected my wife was pregnant.  She was already feeling morning sickness and had missed her period.  The pregnancy test just confirmed what we were both thinking.  At that time, I was scared.  I was quite worried about what would happen.  It was a sudden thing I didn’t feel prepared for at all.  I guess I was scared of the big changes coming up.  I’d never been responsible for a child’s life before.  I had quite mixed feelings.  Of course, I was scared about how much my life was going to change.  It was so soon!  We’d talked about children, but not thinking we were going to have a child within a year.  But at the same time, I was excited, because I’ve wanted children for quite some time.

Over the next couple weeks, as the news was sinking in, we visited a clinic and even had an ultrasound picture of our baby, who looked like a bean.  It was that moment that it felt much more real.  I was truly happy and excited.  I wanted this.

For a while, we couldn’t see any visible signs of pregnancy, so it still didn’t seem completely real.  When we first felt our daughter moving, it was again getting closer to reality in my mind.  Feeling her move was amazing.  It still is amazing!  These days, we’ve been able to feel her foot pushing against my wife’s abdomen wall.  When I saw her moving on the screen during ultrasound, I had an amazing feeling of happiness.  I could see her heart beat!

But now, the night before my daughter is born, I feel a bit nervous, but very anxious to see her.  I get to hold her tomorrow after she’s born, but I won’t get to hold her again for several days until she comes home next week.  I have no idea what it’ll feel like when I hold her for the first time.  But I can’t wait to find out.  I’m incredibly excited to start this new life!

Week 38 – She’s coming in 2 days!

Today, we went to the clinic for the final checkup before birth.  For much of the past week, we’ve been hoping for a natural birth, so my wife did a lot of exercising.  Unfortunately, the baby hasn’t descended.  But there’s no way the baby can be born naturally safely.

The doctor explained to us that this is a case of Cephalopelvic Disproportion.  The baby’s head is too big for my wife’s pelvis.  She won’t fit through.  So, a Caesarean section is the only way to deliver her safely.  My wife will be going into the clinic tomorrow morning, and our daughter will be born on January 25th.  We know her birthday!  I will be present at the clinic when she’s born, so I’ll be seeing her just after birth.  I will be taking pictures!  I’ll also be visiting every day for the rest of the week.  My wife is feeling nervous about the C-section.  She won’t be feeling pain, but she’ll still be feeling the actual operation.  That must be a very strange feeling.  She doesn’t want to feel it at all.

The difficult thing about this is the cost.  Fortunately, C-section is the cheapest way, as health insurance covers 70% of it, and my wife’s life insurance will pay for the rest.  If it was natural birth, health and life insurance would cover none of it, and it would be astronomically high.  We couldn’t afford it.

We also have a possible name chosen.  I won’t announce it until we’ve decided for certain.  That’ll come later this week, and quite possibly on Wednesday.

Apart from the birth, we have received some very important things for the baby.  We’ve received the bath for newborns (only needed for a month) and the baby’s bed.  She won’t be home until February 2nd, so the bed will just be sitting empty until then.  Anyway, here are some bed pictures!

Here's the baby's crib! It's all ready for the baby.

Inside the baby's bed. My wife chose pink.

C-section looks likely

Today, we went to the clinic to check on the baby, and it turns out that she hasn’t descended into the pelvis.  She’s still high up.  What this means is that there’s a 70-80% chance that the baby will be late if by natural birth.  Unfortunately, if she’s born late, she’ll be too big for natural birth.  The doctor says it’s 70-80% likely she’ll be born by Caesarean section.  Well, we’ve decided that we’re going to have the C-section done next week, just 6 days before her due date, on January 25th.  This isn’t definite, though!  It’s also possible that she will suddenly drop and can still be born naturally.  But it’s not likely.  In any case, she’ll be born in a week!


Strong pain

Well, my wife is now experiencing some pretty strong pain in the pelvic or pubic area.  She has no idea what it may be.  The baby could be pushing down.  She thinks the baby may have turned around yet again, and may be kicking down.  But after some investigating, it may actually be her cervix dilating.  This can happen weeks, days or hours before birth.  She is full term next Tuesday, so we should expect anything to happen now.

Take a guess!

The baby will be born this month.  We have an idea about when she’ll be born, so I won’t ask for guesses about the birth date.  However, I do have a couple other questions.  Before I ask those questions, I just want to remind you that she’s more than 2600 grams right now.  Average birth weight is between 2500 and 3500 grams.

Here are the questions:

1. What will her birth weight be?

2. What time will she be born?

If you’re unsure about using grams, then go ahead and use pounds and ounces (I can convert).  I’d like you to leave your answer in a comment to this post, and don’t forget to leave your name, so I know who to congratulate!